“I don’t know how you do it! I feel like I’m drowning with two kids, how do you handle four?!”
“I could never do what you do! You’re like a Super-Mom!”
I hear phrases like this quite often from family and friends. I’m never sure how to respond. It’s like people hear that I’ve chosen to stay home and homeschool four children and assume I must have everything figured out and under control. That couldn’t be further from the truth! (Or they think I’m crazy, which honestly is how I feel most days ;)).
I don’t have it all figured out. More often than not I feel like I’m going to suffocate under the weight of it all. The never-ending care of four young children-just keeping them fed and clean is a full-time job! Then you add in educating, disciplining, discipleship, and trying to reach their hearts…all while keeping the house running smoothly and trying to find time to nurture your marriage and build relationships with others. And then we look around us at the seemingly perfect lives on display for us via social media and we compare our faults with their strengths and we feel like complete failures.
But what if we tried a different approach? What if we went to Christ first and asked Him to help us, rather than making prayer our last resort? What if we stopped comparing ourselves with others, and instead thanked God for the unique gifts He has given to each of us?
Because when we find ourselves feeling like we’re going to be crushed from the weight of it all God reaches down with His amazing grace and gives us the strength we need to continue. And the thing is, He’s always there. You are always on His mind. And yet we forget that so quickly. We try to go and do and be everything for everybody and we forget to first go to God and ask Him to help us.
And when we stop comparing our life with others it frees us up to enjoy the blessings and gifts God has bestowed upon us. I can look at all of the areas in which I feel like a failure and feel like I’ll never be good enough, or I can look at all the gifts God has given me and how those gifts work together to make me the perfectly imperfect mother for my children.
So how do I do it? Well, I can tell you it’s nothing I do on my own. But I know the One in whom my strength lies. And I know He’ll never let me down.
Philippians 4:13: I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.