Here are 5 things every mom wants to hear:
1. You look great!
You really can never go wrong with a compliment. Bonus points if you can find something specific to compliment: “Those yoga pants look so stylish and comfortable!” “I just love your hair! Messy buns are so in style.”
2. You’ve been blessed with a great family
I know I am, but in the day in and day out of everyday life I can sometimes forget. Being reminded (in a genuine way) by someone else can help with my outlook, especially on hard days.
3. How can I help you?
If you ever see me at any public location with all 3 children (especially in a parking lot) please ask me this. Especially if you see that we’re all about 2 seconds from an inevitable meltdown. Chances are I’ll just smile and politely decline the offer, but my heart will feel lighter just knowing that someone cared enough to ask. And if you see one of my children bolt, please don’t ask: just jump right in. You’ll be my hero.
4. Your kids are lucky to have you for a mom
Being a mom is hard. Not a day goes by when there aren’t some thoughts of mommy guilt or worry. Am I doing enough? Am I doing too much? Are they getting enough vegetables? Too much screen time? Why are they always so loud?! Hearing a positive comment about the way I parent won’t take those thoughts and feelings away, but it does give me the motivation to continue on, especially on the tough days.
5. You deserve a break!
Ok, so two caveats with this one. First, this applies to stay at home moms, working moms, moms of one and moms of 12. Basically all mothers deserve a break from it all every once in a while. Whether it’s a solo Target shopping trip or calling in take-out for dinner, every mom deserves something that will make her feel refreshed and ready to tackle another day. Secondly, this one only works if you genuinely mean it. Don’t even attempt it otherwise. It’ll come off as condescending and I’ll drive myself crazy adding more to my plate in order to prove my worth.
So there you have it! 5 simple phrases that could brighten the day of any mom!
Check back tomorrow to find out what NOT to say to a SAHM 😉